When it comes to helping older adults remain in their homes, bathing can be a challenging issue. But Tessa Lamb of Home Instead Senior Care of Manassas and Herndon has found those concerns can be overcome with the right combination of compassion and experience.
Lamb has been working with seniors since 1996, as long as sheâs been a licensed practical nurse. During that time, she realized there are identifiable, key issues that impact bath time. By recognizing and addressing these concerns, home care providers can help their clients age with greater hope and success.
Respecting privacy and independence
Over the years, Lamb has worked with seniors aged 65 up to âthe beautiful young ageâ of 96 who wanted to age in place. That taught her the value of having a good relationship with her clients, she said.
âThey all cherish their independence,â she said. âGetting into and out of a shower can be difficult as we age and become less flexible. Many times requiring the standby assistance of a home health aid can be very daunting.â
At the same time, privacy is a key concern for clients. âThey have been taking care of themselves for over 60 or more years and now someone needs to help them shower,â she explained. âThis can be both frustrating and embarrassing.â
Neither giving nor receiving this kind of care is easy. Thatâs why cultivating a positive relationship is crucial to protect the dignity of those receiving care, as well as to enhance the quality of life for both seniors and their families throughout the caregiving experience.
Recognizing changes in sensory perception
As people age, the acuteness of the senses decreases, and that can have ramifications for both the person who is bathing and the person who is helping with the process. For example, Lamb pointed out, the ears serve two purposes â hearing and maintaining balance â so the loss of sensitivity affects balance as well as hearing. That can have a significant impact when it comes to bath time.
âIf your balance is off, you are not going to want to go onto a wet, slippery surface,â she said.
The same holds true when it comes to vision loss. âThe bathroom is a major fall risk area, and thus a very scary place for seniors,â Lamb explained.
Other senses also come into play. When the sense of touch changes, it can result in decreased temperature sensitivity. That means it can be difficult to tell the difference between water that is cool or cold and water that is hot or warm.
When the sense of smell is lessened, seniors might not be able to smell the odor of their body when they have not taken a shower in several days or weeks. Understanding these changes in sensory perception and how they affect a personâs ability or willingness to bathe can help offset concerns a senior may have when it comes to bath time.
Accounting for fatigue or dementia
Another factor that can impact the bathing process is the fatigue that can accompany many of the medical conditions or illnesses that seniors may develop. Even medications can cause people to become tired easily.
Helping bathe clients with dementia and memory impairment requires particular care, Lamb said. âIt is very, very important to establish a rapport, trust and a relationship with them before any major task can be performed,â she explained. âConsistency is also key because of the short-term memory loss.â
In Lambâs experience, a little bit of empathy goes a long way when it comes to overcoming the challenges surrounding bath time. âI recommend that you show seniors love, kindness, patience, respect â and allow them time,â she said. âGive them choices.â
Perhaps a client isnât up to a bath at a particular moment. Thatâs when a caregiver should offer alternatives, such as a sponge bath, a warm face cloth, a chair bath or even a bed bath. The bottom line is that there are many options. A good caregiver will understand and offer alternatives, while also respecting the clientâs concerns.
âThere is also the option of âjust not today,ââ Lamb said. âIt is more important to establish a relationship and build trust first than try to obtain the goal of a bath.â
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